Monthly Archives: April 2013

Resisting is inviting it to stay.

Thoughts and feelings. Thoughts and feelings make up the experience that is our life. Our thoughts and feelings give meaning to our life. They make us who we are as human beings.

But what about those thoughts and feelings we would rather not have? Like those that make you toss and turn while you are trying to sleep. Ever have those? Of course you have. So have I…many times.

The more we resist those thoughts and feelings, the more they invade our being. They ratchet up our anxiety and tighten the stress in our chest. Our minds spin endlessly as we turn the unwanted thoughts over and over in our heads.

What to do? Don’t resist. Don’t work so hard to replace the negative thoughts and feelings with more positive ones. Instead, acknowledge what you are thinking and how you are feeling. Accept them for what they are…thoughts and feelings. Acknowledge your efforts to push them away. Remind yourself that this is normal and happens to everyone. Then relax your body and focus on your breathing. Choose a calming word like peace, grace, love…and repeat it to yourself in time with your breathing. Each time your mind wanders just gently bring yourself back to your breathing and your word. This method may take practice but you will get better at it the more you work on it.

This practice usually leads to a solution to the “problem” you are resisting because it allows your subconscious to work on it. The subconscious mind is often much better at problem-solving that the conscious mind. It’s the source of inspiration, creativity, and sometimes healing.

Wishing you grace, peace and simple abundance…and the quiet discipline of learning to let go of the thoughts and feelings that seek to ensnare you in a vicious battle of tug of war.

Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority…

Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect. — Mark Twain

Wishing you grace, peace and simple abundance…and the persistence to think, really, think about the “sides” you choose to take and the courage to stand alone if need be.

What would you attempt to do if…

Think about it. What is your heart’s desire? What is it you long to do? It’s been sitting there inside you…perhaps since you were a child…waiting for you to take that leap of faith and free it from it’s hibernated state and unleash the roaring passion that sits just behind the wall of fear, doubt, and anxiety.

You entered the world as a unique being full of hope, promise and possibilities! Then, little by little, the well-intentioned folks around you…parents, teachers, pastors/priests, aunts and uncles, grandparents, professors…filled you with “should dos,” “must not dos,” “be carefuls,” and “have tos” that slowly boarded up the windows to some of your greatest hopes and possibilities. Your authentic self was gradually replaced by your “inherited” self…a self focused on pleasing others and meeting their expectations…a limiting self.

But it need not continue to be that way. Recognize the “inherited” self for what it is…an artificial self that’s been king of the hill while your authentic self sits and waits for you to courageously pull away the planks from your boarded up hopes and dreams, to affirm the power and passion of the human spirit, to boldly step out in faith in pursuit of your heart’s desire…that thing you would attempt to do if you knew you could not fail. There will never be a better time to start. Do it now!

Wishing you grace, peace and simple abundance…and the faith to shed your “inherited” self and unleash your God-given authentic self in pursuit of your dream.