Monthly Archives: June 2014

Seek out a true mentor.

“Through good mentoring, we can touch that part of ourselves, we can be helped with what psychologist Daniel Levinson calls ‘the realization of the Dream,’ with the awakenings in our lives.

“A mentor is a kind of soulmate and carrier of souls, a kindred spirit who sees something special in us, not just as we already are but as we could become. It is someone, as actor-director Elia Kazan once said of his own mentor, who sees ¬†‘the great possibilities.’ The best mentors are those who are students at the same time, other people’s mentorees.

“… ‘We all need someone higher, wiser and older,’ Ray Bradbury once said, ‘to tell us we’re not crazy after all, that what we’re doing is all right.'” — Gregg Levoy, Callings: Finding and Following an Authentic Life

Wishing you grace, peace and simple abundance…and a true mentor.

Avoiding change is folly.

“The desire to protect ourselves from change probably does more harm to the flowering of human life and spirit than almost any other choice, but it is imperative to understand something about security: It isn’t secure! Everything about security is contrary to the central fact of existence: Life changes. By trying to shelter ourselves from change, we isolate ourselves from living. By avoiding risk we may feel safe and secure — or at least experience a tolerable parody thereof — but we don’t avoid the harangues of our consciences. It’s almost axiomatic that the important risks we don’t take now become the regrets we have later. In fact, I was once told that if I’m not failing regularly, I’m living so far below my potential ¬†that I’m failing anyway.” — Gregg Levoy, Callings: Finding and Following an Authentic Life

Wishing you grace, peace and simple abundance…and no fear of failure.

Callings: Lessons from Professor Turner

“Professor Turner had it coming.

“After his tutorial in the power of suggestion, we students in his psychology class devised an opportunity to show appreciation in kind…Most people know about conditioning by way of a famous experiment conducted by the Russian physiologist Ivan Pavlov, whose dogs were taught to salivate at the sound of a ringing bell.

“Taking advantage of Mr. Turner’s habit of pacing back and forth while delivering his lectures, we concocted the following experiment: Whenever he walked toward the window, we very subtly adopted postures of boredom…Whenever he walked toward the door, we assumed positions of interest…

“By the time the day’s class was over, Mr. Turner had glued himself to the door…

“It is astonishingly easy to condition someone, and by extension, to be conditioned, without a single word being spoken — everything done in pantomime. If it only took us barely forty-five minutes to condition our psychology professor with a new set of behaviors, unbeknownst to him, imagine the effect on us of a lifetime’s worth of conditioning, of domestication, regarding what direction we should take in life. Imagine the effect of the thousands of messages, spoken and unspoken, that have been knitted into our minds ever since we came squawking out of the womb, and which we took on like hand-me-downs, regardless of whether they fit us or not. Think of all the unconscious trespasses that have been visited on us in the name of love and education, in the name of God. Together, they form a kind of hypnosis, whether true or false, positive or negative.

“If we only look to others to show us who we are, however, then the reflection we’ll have of ourselves will always be distorted a little, like our reflections caught in other people’s sunglasses, in dark windows, fish-eye lenses or the sides of teakettles — the light always a little refracted and the image never quite true.” — Gregg Levoy, Callings: Finding and Following an Authentic Life

Wishing you grace, peace and simple abundance…and a life that is a true reflection of who you are.