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What commitment am I willing to make?

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“The question of commitment declares that the essential investment needed is personal commitment, not money, not the agreement of others, not the alignment of converging forces supportive of a favorable outcome. For anything that matters, the timing is never quite right, the resources are always a little short, and the people who affect the outcome are always ambivalent. These conditions offer proof that if we say yes, it is our own doing and it is important to us. What a gift.” — Peter Block

What do you need to say yes to? What’s holding you back? Why?

We are often “role occupants.”

IMG_4538“If we try to live our lives in separate compartments, one for doing and one for being, then for part of the time we are living a lie, ‘the truth is not in us.’

“It is hard for being and doing to weld into one when for part of your doing you have to act a part that is not totally ‘you.’ All of us in organizations are ‘role occupants,’ and few of us could claim there is a perfect match between us and our role. That is part of the problem with organizations and part of their seduction. They force us, or allow us, depending on your point of view, to play a part. It can be fun for a while. It can be damaging in the end.”Charles Handy

Wishing you grace, peace, and simple abundance.

We empower ourselves by understanding our purpose.

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“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you.” – Maya Angelou
 
Those that have spent any significant time with me know that I believe we liberate and empower ourselves by understanding our purpose…by definitively answering the questions “Who am I?” and “Why am I here?” This has certainly been my experience.
 
Self-awareness, self-understanding, and a clear sense of purpose (something greater than “making a bunch of money”) is critical to meaningful success.
 
My passion is helping others answer the “Who am I?” and “Why am I here?” questions. One of the ways I do this is by sharing articles and blog posts that I find informative and helpful. So, here’s a post that resonated with me as I read it last night. Hope it does with you as well.
Wishing you grace, peace, and simple abundance.

Use Care in Creating the Pattern of Your Life

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“In using your choosing power, be consciously aware that you are creating the pattern of your life. Every time you make a choice, you draw another line on the map of your life. You alone control your personal destiny, you alone are creating your experience. You alone choose what you wish to be and what you become because you have dominion over every experience…it is folly for you to look for something or someone else to blame, for nestled in your heart is the cause of all you are.

“Most people would prefer to believe that Destiny has planted them in a groove that they must follow and can’t avoid. This would eliminate the need for effort or apology. By wrong thinking we can desecrate life… By choosing wrongly, but still by the simple power of our choice, we can ruin ourselves and have a devastating effect on those around us. We make ourselves sick, miserable, and unhappy. We ourselves embrace a life of poverty, decide to entertain grief or hate.

“…deep within us “the divine discontent” is forever urging us to express our unique purpose and that is the reason we are here. There is no other reason for life. We are given this glorious gift of choice that we may demonstrate our awareness of who we truly are and why we are here. Our greatest motivation in life should be to use our free will, or power of choice, for Good.

“We may be perverse, turn away, decide to control our lives by the outer rather than the inner; decide to use our power of choice willfully from the material point of view. But the power of choice doesn’t bring happiness when misused. When we misuse this power, we cut ourself off from our authentic self. This is how we create bondage rather than freedom for ourselves. We let ourselves be influenced by other’s opinions and our failures of the past. Perhaps we are still influenced by experiences that have caused us pain in the past. We weave this whole web as a pattern of our personality and soon our thinking reacts automatically to this dismal design.”

(from You Unlimited by Norman S Lunde)

Choose well. Live your authentic life. Do and be Good for yourself and for others.

Wishing you grace, peace, and simple abundance.

Freedom from All Other Dependencies

Dependence on the creator within is really freedom from all other dependencies. Paradoxically, it is also the only route to real intimacy with other human beings. Freed from our terrible fears of abandonment, we are able to live with more spontaneity. Freed from our constant demands for more and more assurance, our fellows are able to love us back without feeling so burdened.

Julia Cameron

Maximizing Joy

When I work with people to help them clarify their life purpose or be more authentic in their career and in their leadership, I always ask what benefits they hope to realize as a result of this work. In almost every case, one of the benefits they are seeking is more joy, more happiness in their life.

To have more joy or happiness, we first have to understand what it is that makes us truly joyful or happy. In her book, Finding Your Own North Star, Martha Beck provides three “remedial joy exercises” that I often use with my clients.

  1. Search your brain for any memories that make you smile spontaneously.
  2. Try to remember the last time you cried because you were happy, not sad.
  3. Search for incidents where you have felt intense yearning, and perhaps jealousy about something you have never experienced.

What about you? Is there room, maybe even a longing, for a little more joy in your life? Get a pencil and paper and do these three exercises for yourself. What have you got to lose?

Okay, you’ve determined what brings you joy. Now what?

Beck goes on to say, “Once you’ve figured out what brings you genuine joy, it goes without saying that you should immediately begin filling your life with as much of it as possible… Putting joyful activities into every nook and cranny of your day is a great way to start toward your North Star. The great thing about this strategy is that it can vastly improve the quality of life almost immediately, without requiring any massive changes.

“For example, Geraldine feels soothed and happy when she visits bookstores, so she started going to one during her lunchtime, instead of hanging out at the cafeteria in her office building.  Brent loves golf, so he decided to get up early and hit balls at the driving range twice a week… Marianne’s greatest joy comes from being around children. Since her own babies are grown and gone, Marianne volunteers as a classroom assistant in an elementary school, and she reads to children during a weekly ‘Story Hour’ at a public library.”

So what does maximizing joy have to do with you and your career?

“…Career miracles happen when you’re so in love with your life that pushing yourself is actually easier than stopping, when you ‘do without doing.’ Joyful activity adds real value to the world, and adding value is the heart and soul of a successful career.”

Wishing you grace, peace, and simple abundance…and maximum joy.