Tag Archives: Purpose

The Great Discontent

There is plenty of discontent in the world today; that’s for sure. All you need do is turn on the TV news for a few minutes and you’ll see that discontent is a dominant force all around the globe. However, that’s not “the great discontent” we are talking about here.

The great discontent is that nagging feeling you have that who you are and what you are doing with your life is somehow off track…at least a little bit. It’s not that things are necessarily bad. It just seems like something is missing…that little spark of passion, of enthusiasm that makes you feel like what you are doing has meaning and is contributing to your personal fulfillment in some way. Or maybe it’s that all your efforts are being invested in someone else’s dream rather than your own.

Depending on the source, research suggests that only 30-40% of those working today are truly engaged in their work. This is not surprising since many people choose work because 1) it pays well, 2) parents directed their vocational choice, 3) power or prestige comes with the job, or 4) they just fell into a particular line of work by happenstance. For many, this means they have to park the interests they are most passionate about, and their creativity, at the door of their workplace everyday.

We are creative beings…all of us are creative in some way. You may be creative with words, tools, images (photos, painting, etc.), a certain type of craft, organizing people or things, new ways of performing work, designing interiors, planning events, buildings (construction, renovation, etc.), speaking and motivating, working with numbers (financial and otherwise)…the ways to be creative are endless. The secret to overcoming the great discontent is to discover your creative niche and find ways to express that creativity in your work.

I learn best from examples. Ike Edeani is a good example for us in this particular instance. His is the story of a young man who spent considerable time and money getting an education so he could be an architect.  Early on in his architecture career, he knew something was missing and started looking for other creative outlets. Ike’s story resonated with me and I believe it may resonate with you, too, if you are one of the 60-70% that are suffering from the great discontent. Ike’s story will reenergize you even if you are one of the lucky minority who has already found your creative path. You can read Ike’s story here.

Wishing you grace, peace, and simple abundance…and discovery of your pathway out of the great discontent and into a life of creative contentment.

 

Am I doing the most I possibly can with my life?

Life is funny. Life is sad. Life is hard. Life is good. Life is unfair. Life is a blessing. Life is questions. Life is illumination. Life is regret. Life is anticipation. Life is solitary. Life is shared. Life is a roller coaster of highs and lows but each day life is a gift. Life is good!

I wish I had understood the rhythm of life much earlier in my own life. I spent far too much time fluctuating between mentally replaying mistakes I’d made and wishing for things I thought were out there for me someday. I understood very little of the “precious present.” I lived my life according to the gospel of the expectations of others. Little did I know that these revered others were, more often than not, just as clueless as I was.

So here I am…a man who has seen six decades come and go. The vicissitudes of life have shaped and molded me, admonished me and encouraged me, and have led me on a life-long vision quest…a journey of growth and self-discovery. The journey never ends and I’ve never known what awaited me around the next corner, but I can genuinely say the the last three years have yielded more self-understanding and clarity of life purpose than all the preceding years together. I have a peace and contentment, and a sense of gratitude that had been absent in my life. I can finally answer the question, “Who is Ronnie B?” And I have learned…and continue to learn…how to express who I am in my life and work. It’s a fabulous place to be, to use my wife’s favorite “f” word.

The key is to continually ask ourselves, “Am I doing the most I possibly can with my life?” Many times the answer will be “no” or “I’m not sure,” but it is the repeated asking that keeps on the path toward purpose and meaning. One of the stories of this search that has been most impactful to me is the story of Ann Linnea found in Gregg Levoy’s book, Callings, Finding and Following an Authentic Life. I read it again just today. Below is an excerpt that I hope will whet your appetite to begin your own journey of finding and following an authentic life.

Ann Linnea and a friend, Paul Treuer, regularly kayaked on Lake Superior for several years. One day Paul said, “I bet we could kayak around this whole lake.” Ann resisted at first but the seed of a dream with a purpose had been planted. From Levoy’s book…

“Lake Superior is an inland sea. It is the largest lake on the planet, more than 1,200 miles around, and one of the most volatile, capable of whipping itself into a frenzy of thirty-foot seas, and it is famous for its shipwrecks. It is also one of the coldest. For most of the year, the water temperature in in the mid-thirties…

“Kayaking around the lake would be the most dangerous thing she had ever done…

Ann said, “…I knew, vaguely, that I was approaching the end of some kind of life cycle, the life my parents lived, the life I thought I was raised to live: wife, mother, home, good citizen. I wondered, Is this the fullness of what I can be doing? I wanted to reset the course of my life, to come to clarity about what the gift is I’m supposed to return to the world, and I thought the trip could teach me. The question that I brought with me, and kept asking over and over, was ‘Am I doing the most I possibly can with my life?’

“My purpose was to find a purpose, to find the deepest courage in myself, to look for extraordinary growth, not just the ordinary, day-to-day growth, which is certainly valid, but it was the kind of incremental journeying my whole life had been about. I wanted to step outside of that, to really open the door wide, which is why I liked the symbolism of Lake Superior. It was so wide I couldn’t see across it, couldn’t see what was on the other side, and that was just the magnitude of change I was inviting. To grow beyond the expectations we’re raised with is a radical act, but one I felt was necessary to claiming my true self.

“…There weren’t many people who said, ‘Oh, that’s really a great idea.’ In fact, there were none. It was very tough being on the receiving end of not only  my own doubts, but everyone else’s. It’s really hard to stand in your own truth when everybody around you is telling you, ‘Why don’t you just keep things the way they are?’

“…Ann Linnea’s grueling rite of passage in the wilderness, a journey of more than 1,200 miles and sixty-five days, long stretches of which were spent entirely alone after she and Paul decided to take different routes, and the daily practices of keeping a journal, prayer, ritual, and asking for dreams enabled her to find the coordinates of her own center, to find her way back to her deepest courage, the courage to ‘live beyond a focus on safety and security,’ and to reset the course of her life.”

My journey has not included such a radical departure from daily life (at least not yet). Yours may or may not. Either way, we must not miss the journey. We must not settle for a life of simply doing what we were taught and meeting the expectations of others. We must do the work. We must question the gospel according to the expectations and teachings of others. We must explore and learn and find ways to be of help and service to others…to return our gift to the world…in ways that allow us to express our authentic self. It’s work, yes. But I can promise you it will be the most rewarding work you’ve ever done. My life purpose is to encourage you to begin your journey to finding and following an authentic life and to help you along the path.

There’s no time like the present. Start now. How? Get a copy of Levoy’s book. Read it. Mark it up. Absorb it. Start a journal. Spend time thinking and praying about your purpose and the answer to the questions, “Am I doing the most I possibly can with my life? What is the gift I am supposed to return to the world?” You won’t regret it.

Wishing you grace, peace, and simple abundance…and that you constantly strive to do the most you possibly can with your life. We get one spin. Let’s make the most of it!

Drawing Lines on the Map of Your Life

Does your life look like this?

Or this?

Every time you make a choice, you draw another line on the map of your life. You are creating your experience. Our greatest motivation in life should be to use our power of choice for Good. If we use the power of choice willfully from the material point of view, we create bondage rather than freedom for ourselves. We let ourselves be influenced by other’s opinions and failures of the past.

Wishing you grace, peace and simple abundance…and wise use of the power of choice…choosing the good that leads to freedom.

Passion is power.

Passion is power. Passion is the smelling salts of the soul. Passion’s message is the same one love brings: follow.

Passion is what we are most deeply curious about, most hungry for, will most hate to lose in life…It is whatever we pursue for its own sake, what we study when there are no tests to take, what we create though no one may ever see it. It makes us forget that the sun rose and set, that we have bodily functions and personal relations that could use a little tending. It is what we’d do if we weren’t worried about the consequences, about money, about making anybody happy but ourselves. It is whatever we could be tempted to sell our souls for in order to have an extra hundred years just to devote to it, whatever fills us with the feeling poet Anne Sexton was referring to when she said that, “when I’m writing, I know I’m doing the thing I was born to do.” It is what matters most, whether we are doing it or not.  — Gregg Levoy

Wishing you grace, peace and simple abundance…and the courage to pursue your passion.

Live True to Yourself.

The number one regret voiced by those on their deathbed is…

I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

Wishing you grace, peace and simple abundance…and that you live true to yourself and go do all those things you’ve always wanted to do.

Hit the reset button in your brain.

Feeling stuck or overwhelmed? Keep checking your work email after hours and while on vacation? Wish you could be more focused? Want to be more productive and creative?

Become a better problem solver and increase your happiness quotient at the same time. Read Daniel J. Levitin’s article, Hit the Reset Button in Your Brain.

Wishing you grace, peace and simple abundance…and many a healthy reset for your brain.

Creativity is enhanced by hushing.

The following exercise for generating ideas is from Fearless Creating by Eric Maisel.

Hushing

You must stop your mind from operating on autoscan. Maintaining an autoscan mind is no way to live and no way to think.

Find a quiet place. If there is no quiet place in your environment, that is your first task, to make a haven in which silence is available. Enter that quiet place affirmatively by whispering, “I am hushing.” Continue saying “hush” or “s-s-s-sh.” Gently hush your thoughts, just as if you were comforting a baby.

Work to grow quiet inside. Thoughts will come, but hush them away. Work to hush your thoughts until you have no thoughts, until you are just empty and breathing. This will take some time. Don’t despair if you can’t do it easily, quickly, or even at all. Just try. Hush and hush again.

When you’re as quiet as you feel you can be, murmur to yourself, “Deeper.” Hush and wait. Feel your breathing deepen, feel yourself descending. You will want to close your eyes. Go silently into the darkness.

You are entrancing yourself. What do you see? Ideas will come to you, melodies, lyrics, images. The very darkness will acquire a tone, the very silence a music.

Something that passes by in that hushed stillness may seem especially important. That is an idea with vivacity. Hush again and hold it. Give it a chance to grow more distinct. Hold it and nurture it until you can capture it. Then write it down, draw it, play it on the piano.

Wishing you grace, peace and simple abundance…and mastery of hushing.